1. I grew up with a tough name. Siobhan Adcock. Look at it. There's almost no part of that name that's not sort of a pain in the ass.

2. People don't tend to remember it, and when they do, they can't pronounce it. Siobhan is an Irish name -- it means Jane, or Joan, or Joanne, or if you're feeling like a sparkly unicorn fairy, "sea foam blowing off the waves." My father told me (incorrectly, as it turns out) that it means "Queen of the Emerald Isles." He and my mother had heard of it by way of Siobhan McKenna, the famous Irish stage actress who was in Dr. Zhivago. (But not the famously beautiful actress who was in Dr. Zhivago. And also not the second-most beautiful actress in Dr. Zhivago. The other one.)

3. My father's name, by the way, was Dick. They don't really name kids that anymore. Especially with a last name like Adcock. Dick Adcock, Jr. Because his father's name was also Richard. So when my dad was growing up, there was Big Dick Adcock and Little Dick Adcock. No one, apparently, in the early 1950s, thought that was a problem.

4. When I was a kid there was this, um, spread? Like an oleo type of thing? It was light and silky. Chiffon had probably one of the catchier two-word jingles of the '70s and early '80s: "It's... Chiffon!" Every time I got on the school bus, I had to be announced. By everyone. Often in five-point harmony. "It's... Sio-ffan!"

5. Since my last name starts with an A, every year on the first day of school, I was inevitably the first name on the roll to be called. The fresh, shiny new roll. Oh, my teachers. I pitied them. Here it was, the beginning of a new school year, the school year they hoped they wouldn't fuck up or make embarrassing mistakes during (especially not on day one), and you could just see their fresh, young, expectant faces crumple and fall when they realized they weren't even going to be able to get past the first name on the roll call without asking for help.

I'd usually let them suffer in silence for a second or two, squinting and frowning down at the list of names, and then mutter, "Here. I'm here. It's me, Siobhan."

Ultimately, you have to make it easy on people.

7. You can imagine what I tell baristas.

6. When I go to a restaurant and leave my name for a table, I tell them I'm Suzanne. Or Sabrina. Or Soybean. All actual pronunciation attempts I have heard.

8. Long ago, I arrived at a formula for how to respond when I'm asked to spell my name. This is especially essential for forms filled out by baffled clipboard holders:

"S-i-o. (Pause here.) B as in Boy. (Another pause.) h-a-n. Last name: A-d-c (Emphasize the c. Then a long, long pause here, almost long enough to make them think you're done, before the finale.) o-c-k."

About 50 percent of the time, I get: "A-d what?"

"C-O-C-K. COCK! COCK!"

"Cock?"

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9. And then I went into digital publishing, primarily at women's websites, and as such, I've had a lot of awesome email addresses:

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All the places a cock could ostensibly be sad, I have worked at.

10. I imagine other people with "cock" in their last names also have this problem, but I've discovered that I actually can't register for a new email address with my real name anymore, because it sets off a spam filter, and I'm asked to "choose another name." (You choose another name, Yahoo!)

11. My sister, Gillian Adcock, has, for many years, been a teacher at a local high school. When she was single, she kept her last name a secret at work -- she had to. For all these lovable teenagers, she was only ever "Miss A" for years, until she got married and then became Mrs. Fletcher. I mean, can you imagine what a roomful of teenagers would do with something like "Miss Adcock"?

12. When I got married, I had the opportunity, at last, to change my last name. I went to the marriage license place in downtown Brooklyn with my soon-to-be husband, whose last name is innocuous and contains no filthy words. I probably could have changed my first name too while I was at it -- nobody in that office seems like they're paying a whole lot of attention. But I didn't. Looking down at the form, I understood that I didn't want to. My father died when I was in college, and we're not in great touch with what's left of his side of the family, and I didn't want the Adcocks, our Adcocks, the Adcocks with the balls, to name their children ridiculous things like "Dick" -- twice -- and then, later, "Siobhan," to perish from this Earth. I kept my name.

I am also lazy and didn't want to deal with a lot of paperwork.

Adcock it is, then. Forever.

13. I always thought that when I finally had a kid I'd name her Jane, or Kate, or Mary. But I didn't. We gave out daughter a name that combined our grandmothers' names. It's phonetic, at least, but it's not super-recognizable or common. You don't actually want a common name, I've found. After 40-plus years as Siobhan Adcock (God, when you say it out loud, there's even the suggestion of "nads" in there -- it really might be the second filthiest name ever, after Big Dick Adcock), I now know that an uncommon name gives you something to live up to, and that's both a challenge and a stroke of luck. So we gave her a name that people will ask her annoying questions about all her life.

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14. When I was in college, I worked at the library. And one day, this guy came in. And he checked out some books. And when he left, I kept the screen open on his record and just stared at it for a while, feeling like some previously unknown, oddly comforting corner of the universe had arrived before me, and called out its name: